What Parents Want from Their Youth Worker
8/23/2007
Its funny how youth ministry changes dramatically when you have your own kid(s) in the group. I am a parent and a youth worker. I desperately want to reach out to this generation of students and I have a particular interest in a couple of girls who happen to live in my house and call me Dad. I want a partnership with our youth ministry and there are a few needs I have as a parent that I think youth workers could help me with in my responsibility as a Dad who wants my kids to thrive in their faith.
Communicate With Me!
Communication is a key need. What are you teaching my kids? When is the Summer Camp? Who is the small group leader asking my kid out for a Coke? What is your vision for the youth group? Parents need accurate, available and advance information concerning your youth ministry and youth group events. They need to know that they have quick access to the most important information, whether it is through a web page or a newsletter, or even an announcement at church.
Tell Me Your Vision
Parents need to know your heart and your vision. As a partner in bringing along my kid toward spiritual maturity, share with me your strategy for reaching out to kids in the youth group. One of the greatest downfalls of well-meaning youth workers is that they have a great strategy and philosophy of ministry but they simply haven’t shared it with the parents of the kids in their group. The primary place of building students toward spiritual maturity is the home. Your job is to come alongside the parents and partner with them. It’s important to share your vision and get the parents on board with that vision.
Give Me Tools to Help My Kids Grow Spiritually
When you look at your ministry as a partnership with parents in helping your students grow spiritually, you will see your role as facilitator in helping the family succeed. As a youth worker you have access to resources many parents don’t have but need. You can give parents family devotional ideas. You can give parents small group curriculum and book ideas for meeting together to talk about the special needs of parenting adolescence. You can offer seminars for the families in your church to gain better understanding of how to parent effectively. Youth workers today have to look at part of their job description as being a resource for parents.
Encourage me!
I had no idea how wonderful and how frightening it is to parent a teenager until my own kids enthusiastically entered adolescence. As a youth worker I thought it would be a breeze. Not so. I may think I have all the answers for everyone else’s family but it was quite humbling to find out that my own girls didn’t think I was as cool as other kids did. Parenting isn’t easy and parenting an adolescent is even more difficult. As a youth worker I know all the bad stuff they could be involved in and it comes at a time when they are moving away from dependence on me and toward independence. I need my youth workers to come alongside me and sometimes just encourage me. I need an affirmation when my kids do something good at church. I need a note when I helped out at a youth group function. I need to be reassured that this incredible kid who lives in my home called a teenager is going to make it through these years, Better yet, I need our youth worker to encourage me that I will make it through these years!
So lets look at our ministry as partnering with parents as well as reaching out to students. It really is the way to do effective youth ministry with long lasting results.
Communicate With Me!
Communication is a key need. What are you teaching my kids? When is the Summer Camp? Who is the small group leader asking my kid out for a Coke? What is your vision for the youth group? Parents need accurate, available and advance information concerning your youth ministry and youth group events. They need to know that they have quick access to the most important information, whether it is through a web page or a newsletter, or even an announcement at church.
Tell Me Your Vision
Parents need to know your heart and your vision. As a partner in bringing along my kid toward spiritual maturity, share with me your strategy for reaching out to kids in the youth group. One of the greatest downfalls of well-meaning youth workers is that they have a great strategy and philosophy of ministry but they simply haven’t shared it with the parents of the kids in their group. The primary place of building students toward spiritual maturity is the home. Your job is to come alongside the parents and partner with them. It’s important to share your vision and get the parents on board with that vision.
Give Me Tools to Help My Kids Grow Spiritually
When you look at your ministry as a partnership with parents in helping your students grow spiritually, you will see your role as facilitator in helping the family succeed. As a youth worker you have access to resources many parents don’t have but need. You can give parents family devotional ideas. You can give parents small group curriculum and book ideas for meeting together to talk about the special needs of parenting adolescence. You can offer seminars for the families in your church to gain better understanding of how to parent effectively. Youth workers today have to look at part of their job description as being a resource for parents.
Encourage me!
I had no idea how wonderful and how frightening it is to parent a teenager until my own kids enthusiastically entered adolescence. As a youth worker I thought it would be a breeze. Not so. I may think I have all the answers for everyone else’s family but it was quite humbling to find out that my own girls didn’t think I was as cool as other kids did. Parenting isn’t easy and parenting an adolescent is even more difficult. As a youth worker I know all the bad stuff they could be involved in and it comes at a time when they are moving away from dependence on me and toward independence. I need my youth workers to come alongside me and sometimes just encourage me. I need an affirmation when my kids do something good at church. I need a note when I helped out at a youth group function. I need to be reassured that this incredible kid who lives in my home called a teenager is going to make it through these years, Better yet, I need our youth worker to encourage me that I will make it through these years!
So lets look at our ministry as partnering with parents as well as reaching out to students. It really is the way to do effective youth ministry with long lasting results.
Conversation
what if most of the youth
what if most of the youth have parents that dont attend church?
It's funny how some parents
It's funny how some parents will eat up everything you give them, and others will say, "Newletter? What newsletter?" I think you put it out there and let them decide to take it or leave it. If they want involvement, give it to them. If they want to just hand off their kids, then focus on the kids and work on the family relationship from the kids' point of view.
Good article, thank you.
Good article, thank you.
Its tough being a
Its tough being a transitional YP. I've discovered that it takes a group around 6-9 months to realize that things are different. It's sort of a mourning process. I'm in the thick of a third of the parents in disagreement with a limited window of time to get a few of them back.
Here's a whiny cry-baby
Here's a whiny cry-baby comment:
What about those of us who do each of the above...and still get ZERO response?
This is something I've
This is something I've definitely experienced as the new youth guy at my church. I've had parents who have been very happy with the way things are going (at least not yelling) and parents who've been really upset that they weren't informed of things happening in the community. It's a delicate balance to strike. It's also hard when the majority of parents are unwilling to connect, and the rest are over committed with other things in the church.
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